
It has been a while since I posted so I thought I'd come back to this and offer some more rambling ideas. I've given a lot of thought to what good leadership looks like and I've come to the same conclusion that a U.S. Senator did when asked what pornography was. He told the questioner something like: "I can't give you the definition of pornography, but I know it when I see it." How does one define a good leader? There are a lot of qualities we want to see in a leader: integrity, courage, moral conviction, and so on. But how many of those qualities really mean the person is a good leader? I know many good men and women who have strong moral convictions; who have high levels of personal integrity; who have shown great courage in personal and professional trials, yet I wouldn't want any of them to lead me into battle. On the other hand, I know men and women who have moral deficiencies and who would cheat on their spouse at the drop of a hat, yet I can tell you that I would follow those people into battle and fight side by side with them because I know they will lead me through with great courage.
What does all that mean? Is leadership really a situational thing? While I think that a person can exhibit leadership traits in specific situations, if the supervisor or formal leader doesn't demonstrate leadership on a regular basis in non-stress times how many will actually seek to follow them? I had the pleasure and privilege to meet and get to know one of the primary commanders in the military mission that occurred on Ocotober 13, 1993 in Somalia, Mogadishu. Most of us have either read the book "Black Hawk Down" or have seen the movie of the same name. Lt. Col. Danny McKnight led a convoy of Army Rangers and Delta operators into Somalia to pick up the prisoners captured and ultimately to rescue the injured and killed heroes. If you have never met Colonel McKnight and have a picture of what he must look like based on the actor who played him in the movie, you are so far from reality that you would easily miss him in a crowd.
I picked the colonel up from the airport when he came to Richmond to present his leadership thoughts in a seminar we had for supervisors and administrators. I too expected a tall and imposing figure to come out the terminal. What I got was a man who was slightly built and not nearly as tall in stature as I expected. But it took me about 15 minutes of listening to him talk that convinced me why his men would follow him. While he didn't have the big booming voice or "command speak" I expected, he had a way of communicating ideas that told me he only had to tell someone once what he expected and that he practiced what he preached. It was also obvious he cared deeply about the men in his command and never forgot the ones he lost in Somalia. In fact, the second time the colonel came to speak, he paid a visit to the graves of his fallen men in Arlington National Cemetery and visited the surviving family. What dedication to those for whom he was responsible! I could go on and on about the things that impressed me so much about him, but suffice it to say that if Colonel McKnight told me he was leading a mission to Hell to fight Satan himself, I would be in line to join the battle.
Does any of that mean that I think Danny McKnight is a perfect man and makes no mistakes in his personal life? Certainly not! In fact he spoke quite candidly about some of his past issues that led to failures he regrets. I can't say I would necessarily have wanted to be his son and live with him, though I can't say I wouldn't have either. Does the fact that his actions in his personal life that led to difficult times make him a bad leader? From what I can gather from comments from fellow soldiers and my own personal interactions with him, I can unequivocally say "no." In fact I would say, "heck no!"
So what am I trying to say in this rambling conglomeration of verbiage? Basically the thought I wanted to convey is that just because someone doesn't have a perfect life at home, doesn't mean he or she can't be a great supervisor at work or lead men into battle. I do think that not being perfect is not the same as being amoral though. Everyone has a responsibility to do the right thing and if they fail in that responsibility, they fail those who look up to them.
By the way, the picture above is me (on the left), Colonel McKnight (center) and my brother who is serving in the Army and getting ready to get deployed to Afghanistan.